Victim Mentality

My worth is dependent upon what you think of me.

My beauty is dependent upon how you see me.

My success is dependent upon whether you are impressed.

My importance is dependent upon your ability to appreciate my work.

My happiness is dependent upon whether you smile at me.

My joy is dependent upon your ability to congratulate me.

My boundaries are set where you decide.

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