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The Shame Game
Men bond by making jokes about each other. Women bond by shaming other women.
I would dearly love to tell you about what I have been doing this past week. The hours-long conversations with lawyers. The equally long conversations with colleagues and friends. The decisions that I have had to make about when to speak—and when to say silent.
But to tell you, I would have to do something that I am not very good at.
Namenames.
I am amazed that other women find it so easy.
It took me a year and a half of being called names on social media to call out another woman who had been trying to shame me. (I understand that she has continued to do so, including in more formal academic settings.)
It has now been almost a year since I wrote about her, and the name-calling has only gotten worse.
For the most part, from other women.
I think my favorite this past week was, in effect, an unnaming. I am She Who Must Not Be Named.
Others have been more blunt.
(And, yes, I get that by providing these links, I am…
I would dearly love to tell you about what I have been doing this past week. The hours-long conversations with lawyers. The equally long conversations with colleagues and friends. The decisions that I have had to make about when to speak—and when to say silent.
But to tell you, I would have to do something that I am not very good at.
Namenames.
I am amazed that other women find it so easy.
It took me a year and a half of being called names on social media to call out another woman who had been trying to shame me. (I understand that she has continued to do so, including in more formal academic settings.)
It has now been almost a year since I wrote about her, and the name-calling has only gotten worse.
For the most part, from other women.
I think my favorite this past week was, in effect, an unnaming. I am She Who Must Not Be Named.
Others have been more blunt.
(And, yes, I get that by providing these links, I am…
I guess you didn't consult the cat about the contractors. Clearly the project does not meet the Feline Approval Board standards.
ReplyDeleteAh, she's very particular. She is sure to inspect the day's work every evening. Here she is clearly wondering about when the workmen are going to get around to laying the new floor.
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